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After spending countless hours preparing Cover Letters, Resumes and networking, I finally found a job last week. It took me 4 months, 174 applications and countless hours before I found a job that I was really excited about. Over the past 14 months, I constantly asked seniors, alumni and mentors the question - How can I find a job in these choppy markets? When every institution is in firing mode, how do I as an international student differentiate myself?

I’m writing this post to summarize what I learnt. I hope the reader ( perhaps a Columbia University IEOR Grad student like me) benefits and adds his/her observations along. I did not do all these things, at some of them I failed miserably. But a wise person is one who learns from others mistake.

Before Starting College

1) Your job hunt does not starts 1 semester before graduation. It starts from the day that you get your college admit letter. You should have only 3 focus areas in college. a) Learn (study) as much as possible b) Enjoy your college life in a responsible way and c) never forget the end result of education - a dream job.

2) When you arrive in college, You should already have the first draft of your resume ready. You should have ideally spent atleast 20 hours on making your resume. The only thing that should change is the top line of education heading, where you decide your courses and put relevant courses,

3) You should read every page of your university’s career website. For Columbia University, it would mean that you have read everything at http://www.careereducation.columbia.edu/resources/

4) Make a Linkedin Profile. Your goal should be to have 500+ connections before your last semester.

The First Semester

5) Arrive in US one month before course starts. Give yourself sufficient time to find an apartment and to acclimatize with the new culture. Contact seniors. Get all stupid things like phone, housing, food etc sorted out so that you waste minimal time thinking about them once school starts.

6) Talk to seniors and alumni before selecting courses. Although you should select courses that you like, keep in mind that certain classes are very important for jobs. For example, Security Pricing is a must if you want to be in finance.

7) Dont bite more than what you can chew. Select at least one ‘easy’ class each semester to maintain a decent GPA.

8) in light of points 6 and 7 above, Talk to your advisor ( or better still Jenny Mak in IEOR department ) before settling on a course,

9) Once college starts, You’ll be always short of time. For the first month, try to participate in everything possible. After first month, concentrate on a few things that suit your interest. Don’t compromise on studies for extra-curricular work. The only thing that may take a upper hand is interviewing where even if you have to miss classes, its ok.

10) GPA is not absolute. There are “bands” of GPA. below 3.0 you are pretty much screwed. 3.0 - 3.3 is just ok. 3.3 - 3.5 is average. 3.5 - 3.8 is good. 3.8 to 4.0 is very good. 4.0 + is excellent. The positive impact of a 4.0+ GPA is very high, just like the negative impact of a 3.0 and lesser GPA. That said, a higher GPA is always better

11) Sometime after the mid-sems, start applying for Spring and Summer Internships. I suggest you concentrate on CCE and IEOR job postings for the start. I ask you to wait till mid sems so that you can make some sense of job postings’ work description. This way, u’ll come across as a smart applicant who knows what he/she is talking about in cover letter.

12) A spring internship will mean that a) Your free time will disappear completely b) You’ll have to compromise on your social life c) You’ll have to work extra hard for grades d) you’ll miss out on some required extra-curricular activities. The good thing is that you’ll add a US work experience on your resume which will help you find a summer internship as well as a full time job.

Winter Break

13) Take 3-4 days off after the hectic first semester. Then, get down to work. The two odd weeks should be used to remedy your coding and math skills. I suggest you pick up 1 language - VBA or C++ preferably, otherwise MATLAB and try to code as much as possible. Make a schedule so you don’t waste time in spring semester to learn these things. ( I regret that I did not do this - big mistake)

14) Go to various companies website and note the deadline for summer internships. Make an excel sheet where you note the designation, deadline, and required documents. Mark your calendar so you don’t miss any stuff.

15) Good time to go to Linkedin ans see where your school alumni are working. On the excel sheet in point 14, make another column for people you should contact about jobs details in the specific company. EG. “UBS - ER Intern - 12 Jan 2012 - resume/CoverLetter - Contact Mr XYZ of MSOR 2004 to know more”

Second Semester.

This section assumes you have a GPA of 3.4+

16) This is when you’ll learn the most. There are amazing courses available in this semester. Asset Allocation, Term Structure, Volatility smile, Security Pricing, Application Programming etc are all good courses. You should try to audit as many courses in the first two weeks as possible. Remember, what you choose to learn in this semester will modify your job hunt in a major way.

17) If you are not interning this semester, study very very hard. Don’t limit yourself to 3 hard, 1 easy course rule. Take all those subjects where you think u’ll learn the most. In addition, audit another subject if you so wish. Crux - this semester forms the bulk of your knowledge base for any job you will do. Think of this semester as on-job training.

18) The only other objective in Spring semester is to find a Summer Internship. Be ready to apply to 50, 100 or even 150 places. Your objectives in the internship should be - firstly Brand Name, Secondly job content and thirdly Money. . Don’t feel bad if you are not earning as much as some others in summer internship. Brand Name and job content are far more important in long run.

19) Again, CCE and IEOR postings are my preferred way of searching for jobs. Others say that websites like internship dot com, monster dot com and efinancial careers are also good. But as you will observe, you’ll get around 200 - 500 job postings for relevant internships. For me, that was more than enough.

20) Don’t be disappointed if you don’t get an internship by April. People got internships as late as June. In the end, about 70% of my (known) classmates of MSOR ‘2011 had internships. Some unpaid, some paid. Mostly paid between $9 and $43 per hour.

21) The best way to find internship/jobs , apart from CCE, is networking.

Summer Internship

I’ll post another article here mentioning what you can do to maximize your benefits from Summer Internship.

The Last Semester

22) Try to have a light courseload in your last semester because you want to focus all your energy on job hunting.

23) Right after summer internship, make at-least 4-5 types of cover letters. Rework your resume. Have 3-4 types of resumes ready as well.

24) These cover Letters and resumes should not be longer than 1 page each. They should be easy to read and be specific to major types of job roles that you are planing to apply to. For example, in finance they can be one each for Equity Research, Portfolio Management, Credit Risk, Market Risk, Aset Allocation, Quant Research, Quant Trading, Technical (coding), Structured Finance etc. Bring out your different qualities as needed in each job. For Example, Equity Research should focus on your ” seeing the big picture” trait while Quant Trading should focus on ” Quick mathematical mind”.

25) Get your Cover letters and Resumes reviewed by someone in CCE.

26) For heaven’s sake, make sure you are addressing the correct company/person/job in your cover letter. Dont be stupid to send one cover letter to another company. ( I did this and I truly regretted it)

27) Not all jobs in CCE will be for Grad students. Some of them will only be for undergrads or postdocs. For these posting, go to the website directly and apply.

28) Not all jobs will be open to International Students. Don’t waste your time for jobs that require US Citizenship !!

29) My personal experience with job fairs is that they are useless if you haven’t researched the company and roles before visiting the fair. If you go there, the only way u can separate yourself from 100’s of people is when you ask quesntions like, “So I saw your profile at website and you mention that you need so-and-so. I have this-and-this and am good at such-and-such. Do you think I’ll fit in/ can you enlighten me abt this/ can i speak to someone in your this department/ I met XYZ and really liked the role, can you tell me what differentiates a good candiate from others?” etc. Moot point is - don’t sound dumb and ask stupid qns which amazingly enough, 90% of people do.

30) Don’t loose heart if you are rejected! Everyone who got a job amongst my friends received at least 40-50 rejects. Some people like me received 174 rejects. You’re not the first one who’ll receive a reject nor the last one. There will be times when you’ll just not know why u didnt get a interview call, when you clearly were the best. Instead of pondering too much over it, move on.

31) In light of point 30 above, if you are tired of job hunt, take a break, for as long as a week. Leave some applications. Its ok to miss a few deadlines. Don’t take it too hard on yourself. I suggest after every 30 applications, you take two days off and do no job hunting.

32) If everything fails, mobilize your networks and LinkedIn to full force. If you have been diligent, you would have already spoken to a number of people over the past 15 months, and now is the time ( on your 3-4th interaction) to very tactically ask, “is there any job that you know of? “. Please note that you’ll need to raise this topic very sensitively with your networks, I’ll write another post on this topic sometime.

33) If you have done all the above things, the only thing that can stop you from getting a job is your poor luck. And if that happens, remember what happens, happens for the best. Have faith in the Lord for He who creates is He who feeds.

To take an interview is not a trivial task. You have to go through 500 of resumes to select the top 10 candidates, and after asking the same questions again and again over a long day, things may start to get boring. I understand (and forgive it) if an interviewer loses interest in the interviewee after some questions - and I think its natural to be non-focused when you know this isn’t going to work. What I don’t pardon is when an interviewer tells a candidate, directly or indirectly, that the candidate is stupid/useless/incompetent.

The best interviewers make the candidate comfortable. They make objective judgments of suitability - and they may select or reject you - but they by no means make you feel stupid. A good case here was my Societe Generale Interview early this year. Two people, Alejandro Cuadrado and Henri Palacci took my interview on the super day. They both came to conclusions that I wasn’t the best candidate - however the manner in which they conducted the interviews was so good that I felt nice about the interview, inspite of being rejected. MathWorks is another great company when it comes to conducting an interview.

and then there are people like the one mentioned here. Even if I was selected for this interview, I wouldnt join this team because this is not the culture where I see myself fit. I had a similar experience at a very big firm, which incidentally is in the news for very wrong reasons . The interview didn’t went well, but the conduct of interviewer left such a sour aftertaste that I seriously doubt if I would ever work for this particular team

No one says select a undeserving candidate - that is professionally wrong. Certainly take the best candidate. But don’t mock someone who is not qualified. Don’t ridicule a candidate - we all are unsuitable for some job or another.

What goes around comes around for sure.

मई जून 1940 की बात है. हिटलर ने पूरे महाद्वीप पर कब्ज़ा कर लिया. Blitzkreig कामयाब हुआ प्रतीत होता था. france ने घुटने टेक दिए थे. अब britain की बारी थी. हिटलर ने कहा, आत्मसमर्पण कर दो. churchill ने parliament को कहा -

“… we shall not flag or fail. We shall go on to the end. We shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our island, whatever the cost may be. We shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and if, which I do not for a moment believe, this island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God’s good time, the new world, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old…”
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/We_shall_fight_on_the_beaches#Peroration)

और फिर उन्होंने कहा,

“…. Let us therefore brace ourselves to our duties, and so bear ourselves, that if the British Empire and its Commonwealth last for a thousand years, men will still say, This was their finest hour....”
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_was_their_finest_hour)

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साला देश के देश नहीं रुकते परेशानी में,पर उनकी बात छोडो.. siberian crane नहीं रूकती हिन्दुकुश पार करने से, चींटी नहीं रूकती दाना उठाने में, spider नहीं रुकता बार बार गिर कर उठने की कोशिश करने में, गड्ढे में गिरी गाय नहीं रूकती निकलने की कोशिश करने में … इंसान होकर मैं रुक जाऊं तो धिक्कार है मुझ पे!! जब चीज़ें आसान हो तो कोई भी नाम कर सकता है. मुश्किल से जूझना ही तो मर्दानगी है. और अगर इतना पढ़ के, इतना कर के, इतने अच्छे रिश्तेदारों और मित्रों का साथ पाने के बावजूद मैं घबरा जाऊं, तो मुझमे है की क्या गर्व के लिए??

I am feeling much better now. And the reason is that I spoke to my mom and she made me see some basic things, which i had forgotten in my panic.

I have started getting some interview calls. Some more are in the pipeline. 3 interviews for their final round are scheduled this month…something should come out of it I hope! And then, there are still 6 months to go before my Visa requirements force me to go back to India. Assuming the worst case of 3 calls per month - that means 20 interview calls. Lets think I get an offer only in 1 of 5 companies. That means I should have 4 final decisions to choose. In the rarest case of cracking only 10% interview - I still should have 2 offers to choose from. If even that doesn’t work, I’ll do some research or something, try to be here for 3-4 more month and get a job. And frankly, If I don’t get a job even after 12 months, then I am better off going to India.

So what’s the worst which may happen? I’ll go back to India. India is a booming market. There is Finance, there is IT, there is education. I did very good work at ICICI Bank and I think people still remember it. I may get a job at ICICI, if not in some other bank. If not in Finance, I will join an IT company. If even that fails I will join an MBA college/coaching. Heck, I may just open up a institute myself.

Strange that my mom should put some sense in me, of all the people whom I know of.

आजकल सोच रहा हूँ की निराशा से कैसे निपटा जाए. यह कहना की निराश हो ही मत तो एक ideal state है. वो मेरे बस की फिलहाल नहीं. शायद कुछ समय बाद आये.
महत्त्वपूर्ण ये है की जब पता है की मैं निराश या तो हूँ, या हो सकता हूँ, तो उसका उपाय क्या हो? निराशा को यही हटाया नहीं जाए, तो वो अवसाद का रूप धारण कर सकती है. ये मेरे साथ पहले बहुत बार हो चुका है, और आजकल भी हो रहा है.. इस समस्या का समाधान अत्यावश्यक है.

मेरे विचार में जब भी हम निराश हों, तो अपने भूत के बारे में सोचना चाहिए. मेरा मतलब ये नहीं है की सोचो, ” अरे अगर मैं कुछ करता तो ये हो जाता, या अगर में कुछ मेहनत और करता तो कुछ पा जाता, या अगर मैं इतना मूर्खता पूर्ण हरकतें नहीं करता तो वो मेरी होती.. आदि, इत्यादि”. मेरा अभिप्राय है की सोचो जीवन में पहले भी कितनी कठिनाईयां आयीं, कितनी बार लगा की भाई अब तो गए - अब कुछ हो नहीं सकता…लेकिन हर बार चीज़ें ठीक ही हो गयीं. जैसे की कभी लगता था की अगर नंबर ठीक नहीं आये तो क्या होगा - भाई नहीं भी आये तब भी कहीं न कही admission हो ही गया. लगता था की नौकरी नहीं मिली तो क्या होगा - तो नौकरी भी मिल ही गयी. लगता था की अगर वो लड़की मुझे पसंद नहीं करेगी तो क्या होगा - नहीं भी किया तो क्या फर्क पद गया जीवन में? भूल तो गए सब कुछ. वो चीज़ें कहाँ इतनी बड़ी लगती हैं सब. काल ने सब ठीक कर ही दिया. जैसे की W .H .Auden ने भी कहा है,

Time will say nothing but I told you so,
Time only knows the price we have to pay;
If I could tell you I would let you know.

If we should weep when clowns put on their show,
If we should stumble when musicians play,
Time will say nothing but I told you so.

There are no fortunes to be told, although,
Because I love you more than I can say,
If I could tell you I would let you know.

The winds must come from somewhere when they blow,
There must be reasons why the leaves decay;
Time will say nothing but I told you so.

Perhaps the roses really want to grow,
The vision seriously intends to stay;
If I could tell you I would let you know.

Suppose the lions all get up and go,
And all the brooks and soldiers run away;
Will Time say nothing but I told you so?
If I could tell you I would let you know.

अब आज मैं इसलिए निराश हूँ की एक तो नौकरी नहीं लग रही, दूसरे जिससे बहुत पसंद किया उसे मैं पसंद नहीं, तीसरे लगता है की कोई ऐसा मित्र नहीं जिससे मैं सब कुछ कह पाऊँ. ये स्थिति कितनी मूर्खतापूर्ण है! नौकरी कैसे नहीं लगेगी? कहीं न कहीं को सब fit हो ही जाते हैं. मैं भी कुछ न कुछ कर ही लूँगा - चाहे अभी मुझे नहीं पता की कैसे करूंगा.

उसे मैं पसंद नहीं, कहा है ,”मुझे परेशान न करो!”. तो भाई जिसे ये लगता है की मैं उसे परेशान कर रहा हूँ, जो मेरी मुसीबत में मेरे साथ नहीं, जो मेरी अच्छाइयों की क़द्र नहीं करती, वो साला अगर मिल भी जाती है तो कौन बड़ी बात है? क्या ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ मैं अपना जीवन बिताना पसंद करूंगा?

आखरी बात है की मुझे अकेलापन महसूस होता है. लेकिन अगर मैं ध्यान से याद करूँ तो पाऊँगा की हमेशा जीवन में एक न एक मित्र हमेशा रहा. बचपन में बबलू, कोटा मैं आंचलिया और आदित्य, engineering में नवू और RG , MBA में रूहानी, ICICI में परीक्षित और ऋतू, और अब US में परवल और फिर से आंचलिया. कोई न कोई हमेशा था जिसने ध्यान से सुना - गोलू या अदिति, आदित्य बीर या मिनाक्षी, आर्या या अवनीत कोई भी.

मन तो बावरा है, वो दुखी जाने क्यूँ होना चाहता है. जीवन सुखद है.. भगवन ने सब कुछ तो दिया है! माता पिता का प्यार, कुछ पैसे की कभी भूखा न रहूँ, कुछ दोस्त की कभी अकेला न रहूँ. इतना सब अगर अच्छा हुआ है तो कुछ अगर बुरा होता है तो ठीक है. अंत में Khalil Gibran की The Prophet की कुछ पंक्तियाँ..

“Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.

And how else can it be?

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

Is not the cup that hold your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven?

And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?

When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greater.”

But I say unto you, they are inseparable.

Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.

Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.”

( The prophet by Kahlil Gibran, 1923)

After applying to the 82nd job in the past 25 days, I am a bit tired. So I have taken my laptop and am sitting opposite the campus church at Columbia University. I pondered if I should sit on the Low Library steps but then decided it was too crouded with people trying to catch the last minutes of the setting sun. Not that the church bench is bereft of humanity - There are a few people sitting opposite the greek revival portico on which is engraved, “In lumine Tuo videbimus lumen” or ” In your light shall we see the light”

Job hunting brings out different emotions in different people. Some are enthusiastic about it, like that class of 2007 for whom sky was the limit. Some are shit scared of it, like the class of 2008 for whom nadir was constantly going down. And some are like the class of 2011 - All of whom will get something or other, but they all seem to be discontent.

I feel I am a mixture of all the emotions, sometimes I am excited when I get a call, sometimes I am depressed when I dont even get an acknowledgement that I have applied, sometimes I doubt myself when I see an “Interview Status :Declined” email in my inbox. But more than all of these crests and troughs, it seems that life is losing its color.

Of late I have observed that my interests are waning. I do not find myself looking at trees or going on walks anymore. My amazement at finding architectural patterns is ebbing. Talking to people seems to be an exhausting activity, and paradoxically, being alone even more so. I dont find squirrels cute or dogs to be loving. I dont attend Indian Temple or Greek History courses as I used to. I just dont do anything. I look around and feel that I’m one of the millions of people who are just existing, not living.

And then there are ladies. ST writes letters that go into pages and I feel nothing about them. I think of writing a small paragraph to White Rabbit but I know it will meet the same fate. I look at ST and realize that she is exactly in the same situation as me and I feel bad for her. God knows when she’ll understand. God known when White Rabbit will understand. God knows when I’ll understand.

Its just sad. F*** it.

इधर कुछ दिनों से महसूस हो रहा है की धीरे धीरे भारत से दूर होता जा रहा हूँ और अमरीका के करीब. ये चीज़ पहले पाश्चात्य शहरों की खूबसूरती से शुरू हुई, लेकिन मालूम पड़ता है की अब ये tangible की जगह intangible बातों पर टिक रही है, और मुझे लगता है की ये तो खतरनाक है!

अगर मैं सड़कों पर फ़िदा हूँ, या अगर मैं नदियों और समुद्रतट पर वारा जाऊं, तो ठीक है. पेड़ और फूल कहीं भी खिल सकते हैं. इमारतें मुंबई और दिल्ली में खडी हो सकती हैं.

लेकिन अगर मैं अमरीकी जीवनशैली का कद्रदान बनता जाऊं, तो बड़ी भारी मुश्किल होगी. मुझे स्वतंत्रता अच्छी लगने लगी है, मुझे आदत होने लगी है की लोग मुझसे अच्छी तरह से बात करेंगे. मैं भूलने लगा हूँ की किसी समय मैं ऐसी जगह था जहाँ corruption , भीड़ भाड़ और इंसानी जीवन की क्षणभंगुरता सदैव उपस्थित - सदा स्वीकृत सत्य थे.

मुझे लगता है की मैं “धोबी का कुत्ता - न घर का, न घाट का” वाले पथ पर अग्रसर हूँ….

02
May

What is money worth? How important is it to other and how important is it to me?

Interestingly enough, the answers to the above questions have started to become more clear to me. Money is worth only what you think it worth, and thus its importance differs from person to person. While this may seem a banal truth to the reader, I think the appreciation of this fact is invaluable to me.

About two years back, on a chilly December night in Delhi, I took an Auto from Katwaria Sarai to AIIMS. After the standard negotiation I observed that the auto driver was a bit different. He looked different from others and he behaved differently from others, even while negotiating for fare. So I asked this 50 year old, “who are you? You were not always an auto driverit seems!”. And then this guy said, ” I was an industrialist and I had three houses and 5 cars. I had bad luck and I lost everything. Now since an year I’m driving an auto.” This was very weird! I then asked him, ” Are you not sad and discouraged with life?” and he replied, “No, God had given me good days and god has given me bad days as well”.

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2 weeks back, McKinsey sponsored a symposium in Boston. of the 5000 odd resumes that they received, they selected 50 people to come. I was one of those 50. I boarded Acela Express, and McKinsey paid the $230 round ticket from NYC -Boston. I attended a party in the evening where I could have one the most expensive wines of the world. At night I was in one of the best rooms of Ritz-Carlton that overlooked Boston Common. Next Morning, after the expensive wines, king-type bath and a 5 star stay, I looked outside and thought - where has life taken me today! Where was I 25 years back in my village where we used to get electricity only 10 hours a day? How was my first school where i took classes under open sky because the roof wasn’t ready! How I used to travel in sleeper class trains for 18 hours before reaching home, sometimes sitting on the ground because I had no reservation! And how I am here today! How I went to London! How I came to Columbia University….. and most importantly where I may be tomorrow?

What is wealth? It comes and goes. What is money? it is here today, and not there tomorrow. Life & luck are so fickle minded that it is pointless to associate our happiness with money. I am thankful to Lord that he giveth me this newfound wealth, but I remain cautious of growing too attached to it.Of course I need money to feed myself and my family, to live a decent lifestyle and to take care of my family’s health. But beyond that, its plain useless to me.

साईं इतना दीजिये, जा मे कुटुम समाय ।
मैं भी भूखा न रहूँ, साधु ना भूखा जाय ॥

ये दोनों कवितायेँ ‘अनुभूति‘ से ली गयी हैं. 

उड़ते हुए

कभी
अपने नवजात पंखों को देखता हूँ
कभी आकाश को
उड़ते हुए
लेकिन ऋणी मैं फिर भी
ज़मीन का हूँ।


जहाँ तब भी था - जब पंख ही न थे
तब भी रहूँगा जब पंख झर जाएँगे।

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ख़तरे

ख़तरे पारदर्शी होते हैं।
खूबसूरत।
अपने पार भविष्य दिखाते हुए।


जैसे छोटे से गुदाज़ बदन वाली बच्ची
किसी जंगली जानवर का मुखौटा लगाए
धम्म से आ कूदे हमारे आगे
और हम डरें नहीं।
बल्कि देख लें
उसके बचपन के पार
एक जवान खुशी
और गोद में उठा लें उसे।


ऐसे ही कुछ होते हैं ख़तरे।
अगर डरे तो ख़तरे और अगर
नहीं तो भविष्य दिखाते
रंगीन पारदर्शी शीशे के टुकड़े।

Chango and Golu are examples that hard work and struggle are the key elements of success. It is not that they have climbed the everest or gone to the North Pole, but their achievements of finding a job and getting through Med School are no less inspiring for me, the friend and brother.

Both on their paths encountered numerous problems, sleepless nights , backbreaking work and rejects all around. Both were denied the sweet fruit of their labor for that long a time where Satan becomes an everpresent echo, “you’re not going to make it”. Both of them stuck at their paths longer than any other of my friends, and certainly much longer than my attempts at persistence.

And now, withing a week, both have found something to be proud of, at London and New York - where they really wanted to be.

It is these achievements that restore my faith in hard work, when the world seems unfair and the night seems long and cold.

This poem by Kunwar Narayan has been taken from Kavitakosh. It talks about the ambitions of a man, who probably being bored of his mediocre life, wants to start anew, afresh. Reminds me of my days at I Bank. The poem uses simple language and alludes to a meager paycheck being the be all and end all of one’s worth.

मैं इस्‍तीफा देता हूं
व्‍यापार से
परिवार से
सरकार से

मैं अस्‍वीकार करता हूं
रिआयती दरों पर
आसान किश्‍तों में
अपना भुगतान

मैं सीखना चाहता हूं
फिर से जीना…
बच्‍चों की तरह बढ़ना
घुटनों के बल चलना
अपने पैरों पर खड़े होना

और अंतिम बार
लड़खड़ा कर गिरने से पहले
मैं कामयाब होना चाहता हूं
फिर एक बार
जीने में

( I am writing this post in a hurry, so the language may contain many flaws)

This week was notable for three things:

1) I took two long walks in the city. The first was from 9th street to 90th street, and across 4 Avenues. That would be roughly 10 KMs, which was quite long by my standards! It was a beautiful day and I walked almost half of this big Island with my brother who was visiting me from Washington. Me and Golu saw all the beautiful buildings, and explored all the nooks and corners in our way. So, e.g, we now know where can you find the cheapest I love NY shirts here! Golu also took me to a very good coffee shop at 9th Street, where the to-go coffee was really nice!
My second escapade was yesterday when I walked the length of Riverside Park.. About 60 streets and then crossed the Central Park to the MET museum. About 7 Kms in total. Riverside Park is, well, on the river. It starts right behind my house and I had the opportunity to see the sun settle across the river. A very nice evening indeed. By the time I reached the museum, it was closed. And for the first time I observed the magnitude of that huge building , being made only more colossal by the lack of thronging crowds .

2) While coming back from my second walk, I was noticing the price of a haircut - from $13 to $ 20 - in different barber shops. I briefly toyed with the idea of giving myself a haircut, but then realised that my life’s worth is more than $20. Anyways, I located a saloon at 96th street for $12. Overcoming the idea of spending Rs 600 on a haircut is a major roadblock away for me now!
BTW barbers everywhere are the same. They are quiet a chatterbox. This one, someone from Uzbekistan, was no different. He spoke at length about the Indian movies he saw in the USSR days, and asked my opinions on them. He did not pay much attention that I was more interested in talking about Samarkand instead. Anyways, I emerged
a more decent looking person &
much more knowledgeable about bollywood ; from this adventure

3) We have to study a subject known as “Stochastic calculus” . It is considered to be difficult and deals with the Probabilities and Mathematical Inferences. While doing some homework on something known as ” Wald’s Equations” , I got curious about this equation and googled the term. As it turns out, Abraham Wald was a research scientist at Columbia University, and my professor didn’t even mention this! The fact that my university has produced such great people makes me humble and ambitious at the same time.

:)

I try ,I fall.
I retry, I fall again.

And it goes on and on and on.
And then, when I reach the Nadir,
Making a mess of myself
I shall rise, Like a Phoenix
Yet again.

And I shall fly
and fly and fly and fly
to the Zenith,
I shall rule again.

And mark my words
I’ll dazzle you
yet again!

“Just because something is difficult, doesn’t mean we should not try. It only means that - we should try harder” रमन आर्य का ये status message पढके मुझे सहसा सत्य का ज्ञान हुआ . पिछले कुछ दिनों से मुझे अपने पर विश्वास नहीं था.. US जाने के दिन करीब आ रहे हैं और मुझे डर लग रहा था - कैसे घर जाऊँगा? कोई लेने नहीं आ रहा है, कुछ गड़बड़ हो गयी तो? अपना घर कैसे ढूँढूँगा manhattan में ? Computer programming कैसे करूंगा? Maths कैसे करूंगा ? नौकरी कैसे मिलेगी इत्यादि, इत्यादि….. डर ने आत्मविश्वास को ग्रहण लगा दिया था.

लेकिन मैं मूर्ख तो नहीं हूँ! भगवन के सहारे और अपनी मेहनत और बुद्धि के बल पर मैंने भी सफलताएँ पायीं हैं! CFA किया है, MBA किया है, नौकरी में बेहतरीन प्रदर्शन किया है, Clubs और societies का नेतृत्व किया है , और सबसे अच्छी बात अपना ऐसा व्यक्तित्व बनाया है की बहुत जन मेरी तारीफ करते हैं.

मैं अपनी तारीफों के पुल नहीं बाँध रहा, लेकिन अपने को दूसरों से कम क्यूँ समझूं? अगर maths नहीं आता तो सीख लूँगा! अगर Computer programming से फटती है, तो घंटों मेहनत कर कर के पता कर लूँगा! New york में 19 ,541 ,453 लोग रहते हैं, मैं भी अपना घर ढूंढ लूँगा ! हर साल २ लाख भारतीय अपनी नौकरी ढूंढते हैं, मैं भी ढूंढ लूँगा! साला किसी भी चीज़ से डरूं क्यूँ???

और अगर मुझ जैसा पढ़ा लिखा समझदार व्यक्ति -जो Architecture से linear algebra तक, और nietzche से Graphology तक जान सकता है - यदि मुझ जैसा व्यक्ति नूतन भविष्य से डरेगा, तो साला दुनिया का होगा क्या? हमेशा धरती पर रहना अच्छी बात है, अपने में घमंड न आने देना अच्छी बात है ….लेकिन अपने को दूसरों से कम आंकना तो बेवकूफी की चीज़ ही कहलाएगी.

नवु कहता था, ” अगर कोई चीज़ मुझसे हो जाएगी , तो मैं उसे क्यूँ करूँ?” उसकी बात अब मेरे समझ आती है. ये वैसे ही बात है जो अन्चालिया कहता है, “Run towards your fears.”

मैं क्यूँ रुकूँ धरती पे, जब मेरा ठिकाना तो असीमित अंतरिक्ष है????

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” …and I search deep in my soul,
Beyond the doubt and the debris,
I’ve found out that all along,
There has been a king in me…
And I’m gonna Fly,
fly fly fly….”

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17
Mar

We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.

–Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere’s Fan, 1892, Act III
(Irish dramatist, novelist, & poet (1854 - 1900) )

गुलरभोज में बाबा के कमरे में एक चित्र टंगा था. उगते हुए लाल सूर्य का चित्रण था. साथ ही एक कविता की ये पंक्तियाँ भी थी -

” नए गगन में,
नया सूरज जो चमक रहा है,
ये विशाल भूखंड,
आज जो दमक रहा है,

मेरी भी आभा है इसमें ! “

There isn’t much that now you can do

So have a smoke and melt in the night dew

Listen to the tick tock of your pocket clock

Wondering if naught is all, all things come to.

Or probably you can have a beer

And look at your despicable self with a sneer

Mediocre you, always knew,

My efforts were impotent, there or here.

So sip the whiskey, soda and scotch

Sit alone on the backside porch

Lo and Behold! As the truth be told

“You were always useless”, Says the watch.

बचपन में एक कहानी पढी थी। किसी ऋषि को एक चुहिया मिली। उसने उस चुहिया को मानव रुप दिया और कहा,”आज से तुम मेरी बेटी हो”। समय बीता और वह रूपवती परिपक्व हो गयी। सवाल आया कि उससे शादी लायक लड़का कहाँ से ढूंढें? ऋषि को लगा सूर्य सबसे बलवान है, अतः वह सूर्य के पास गया और कहा कि हे सूर्य देव, आप मेरी पुत्री से विवाह कर लें!
सूर्य ने कहा, “आपकी आकांक्षा मेरे सर माथे, किन्तु बादल मुझसे शक्तिशाली है क्योंकि वह मेरी किरणों को रोक देता है, आप उसे विवाह योग्य वर माने” । ऋषि बादल के पास गए, किन्तु उसने कहा पर्वत सबसे शक्तिशाली है क्योंकि वह मेरा रास्ता रोक देता है… आप गिरिराज हिमालय के पास जाएँ। हिमालय ने कहा,” हे सिद्ध आत्मा, एक चूहा मेरे में बिल खोद कर मुझे खोखला कर देता है, मेरी सारी शक्ति धरी कि धरी रह जाती है। आप तो मूषक के पास जाएँ।”
चूहे ने कहा -” ऋषिदेव, मनुष्य प्रजाति से मेरे को डर लगता है, आप अगर रूपवती को चुहिया बना दें तो मैं उससे विवाह कर सकता हूँ” । ऋषि ने तधास्तु कह उसे फिर से चुहिया बना दिया और वे दोनो ख़ुशी ख़ुशी विवाहत्तर जीवन जीने लगे
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जाने क्यों सिरसा से आते वक़्त यह कहानी बार बार मेरे मन में आती रही। मैंने अपने जीवन की बारे में सोचा। मेरे CV को अगर कोई देखें, तो प्रभावित हुए बिना नही रह सकता। उसमे आपको मेरे व्यक्तित्व के कई बेजोड़ नमूने देखने को मिलेंगे। लगेगा कि वाह! क्या मेहनत से लड़के ने ये सभी पुरस्कार जीते हैं। जहाँ जहाँ CV डाला, वहाँ वहाँ वह shortlist भी हुआ। लेकिन अगर मैं सच में उन चीजों के बारे में सोचुँ तो मुझे ख़ुशी कम और दुःख ज्यादा होता है।
मेरी सफलता के पीछे लगता है कि कितने त्याग भी हैं। हर उपलब्धि मालुम पड़ता है जैसे जीभ चिढा रही हो । मानो ये कह रही हो कि “मुझे पाकर भी तुमने क्या हासिल कर लिया?”। ये सब CV के मुद्दे केवल कागज़ पे छिपे काली स्याही के बेढब अक्षरों से अधिक कुछ नही लगते …. और हर बार जब मैं उन्हें पढता हूँ तो मुझे अपने से उतनी ही अधिक घिन्न होती है। याद आता है कि कितना समय जो मैंने कैशोनोवा में बर्बाद किया, वो मित्रों और परिवार के पास जा सकता था। कितना समय जो मैंने PEC की बेवकूफियों में व्यर्थ किया वो मेरी माँ के पास जा सकता था। मेरे माता पिता अकेले रहते हैं अजमेर में और अपनी इस इनवेस्टमेंट बैंकिंग की नौकरी कि वजह से मैं उन्हें और अपने परिवार एवं मित्रो को पूरा समय नही दे पाऊँगा।
याद आता है कि मैंने जानबूझ कर कभी मन में किसी के प्रति सच्चे प्रेम की भावना नही आने दी…क्योंकि वह मुझे आगे बढ़ने से रोक देती। अपने को किसी भी सुन्दर चीज़ के लिए रुकने नही दिया क्योंकि मुझे सदैव प्रथम रहना था। वरुण अग्रवाल भला कभी पीछे कैसे रह सकता है?
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ये चूहे और मनुष्य की कहानी मैं भूल गया था। लेकिन सरसों के खेत, मिट्टी की खुशबू, बस में सफर , रेल की पटरी और शादी देखकर याद आया की मैं भी अधिकाधिक एक चूहा ही तो हूँ । मैं भी हमेशा अपने को और बेहतर बनने के लिए नए लक्ष्य ढूँढता रहता हूँ और आखर में मालूम पड़ता है कि एक सादा मनुष्य बनना ही अच्छा होता -

फलानुसार कर्म के, अवश्य बाह्य भेद हैं।

परन्तु अंतः एक है, प्रमाण भूत वेद हैं॥

मैं असंख्य छोटे MBA में से एक हूँ, यह बात मैं अच्छी तरह जानता हूँ। यह भी सत्य है कि मेरे से अच्छे बहुत सारे लोग हैं। और इसमे भी कोई शक नही कि काफी सारे लोग मेरे से बेहतर company deserve करते हैं ।

लेकिन तब भी, मेरी असली कीमत क्या है? मैं I Banker बनूँगा कि नही, ये बात एक HR कैसे निर्धारित कर सकता है? वह मेरे से 6- 7 सवाल पूछ के यह कैसे बता सकता है कि मेरे में ‘वो’ बात है कि नही? मैं यह नही कहता कि मैं सबसे चतुर हूँ, लेकिन मैं किसी से कम भी नही हूँ।

नही lehman , तुम गलत हो। तुम मेरे भविष्य का फैसला नही कर सकते। तुम मेरे आने वाले कल कि भविष्यवाणी करने के काबिल ही नही हो। मैं यह प्रमाणित करके दिखाऊँगा कि मैं भी एक I Banker बन सकता हूँ, ……. न केवल बनने के सक्षम हूँ, बल्कि मैं इतना अच्छा बनूँगा कि तुम्हे ग़म होगा कि तुमने मुझे आज क्यों नही लिया जब मैं पूरे दिल से तुम्हारे पास आने के लिए दो साल से मेहनत कर रहा था ।

मैं साबित करूंगा कि मुझे न लेने का तुम्हारा निर्णय कितना गलत था…..

” कशमकश को छोड़ दे तू,
रुख हवा का मोड़ दे तू
खाली पैमाना है तेरा,
हो सके तो तोड़ दे तू”

ESNIPS पे “हम लायें हैं तूफ़ान से किश्ती निकाल के ….” गाना सुनते हुए याद आया कि छब्बीस जनवरी पास आ गयी है। याद आया कि फिर से स्कूली बच्चों को जबरदस्ती राजपथ ले जाया जाएगा और मैं ख़ुशी ख़ुशी सोचूंगा कि चलो एक छुट्टी और मिली।

तभी याद आया कि मेरे दादाजी (बाबा) और दादीजी (अम्मू) भी शामिल थे स्वतंत्रता सेनानियों में और अनगिनित गांधीवादियों कि तरह उनके भी जेल जान पड़ा था। दोनो कि तबियत भी काफी खराब हुई थी उस दौरान। बाबा और अम्मू दोनो ही संपन्न परिवारों से ताल्लुक रखते थे और उन्हें कोई आवश्यकता नही थी अपने स्निग्ध जीवनशैली त्याग के ,जेल के एक बैरक में बासी रोटी और अधपकी दाल खाने की। लेकिन उन्होने ऐसा किया, कुछ अपनी पीढ़ी के लिए, कुछ मेरी पीढ़ी के लिए और कुछ मेरी आने वाले पीढियों के लिए।

बाबा अब नही रहे, अम्मू से अगर पूछों कि आपने क्यों इतना त्याग किया तो वो कहेंगी कि उस समय का उन्माद ऐसा ही था। वे कहेंगी कि कुछ इतनी बड़ी बात भी नही थी। किन्तु जिस चीज़ के लिए आपने इतनी मेहनत की, उस की कीमत हम में से कोई न समझा।

एक PEPSI पीते , McD का burger खाते और GRE देके पहले मौक़े में अमरीका जाते हुए आपके अयोग्य पौत्र की ओर से शत् शत् नमन .

मुझे मामा के साथ बात करना पसंद है क्यूंकि हर बार उनसे बात करने पर कुछ नया सीखने को मिलता है और उनका point of view मुझे एक और दिशा दिखता है।

उनसे बात करने से मुझे प्रेरणा मिलती है कि मैं सतत बेहतरी के पथ पर बढूँ। हम रूक नही सकते। हम थक भी नही सकते। मैं नही सोच सकता था कि मैं कभी Oxford/LSE/Stanford कि बातें करूंगा। शायद मैं उन जगह न भी पहुंच पाऊँ, लेकिन यह बात कि आज कमसकम मैं वहाँ जाने की तमन्ना रखता हूँ, क्या यही कुछ कम है?

यह मत सोचो कि अभी क्या मिल रहा है, यह सोचो कि आज से ५ साल या १० साल बाद क्या मिलेगा ।हम जीते या हारे, ये मेरा bhavishya teh करेगा न कि मेरा vartmaan

आहूति बाक़ी, यज्ञ अधूरा
अपनों के विघ्नों ने घेरा
वर्तमान के मोहपाश में ,
आने वाला कल न भुलाएं,
आओ फिर से दिया जलायें! “
~~ वाजपेयी , आओ फिर से दिया जलायें

Hari told me today that placements are very important because they will determine where we’ll finally end up in our lives and are thus a make or break thing.

I don’t think so. Looking back at my short 24 yr old life, I think that at each point there were aways some pressing problems which we thought were make or break. Remember the class X board? or class XII ones? or some exams at resonance or even IIT JEE? They all were damn impat that time but now i don’t think so. there are new opportunities today which have taken that mindspace.

The leitmotif of make or break still exists although. And it always will. For remember there is no true happiness ,only ‘In pursuit of happiness’
——–
PS : Congrats Ruhani ! :)

कौन मूरख़ है? क्या वो जो धीरे सोचता है , या वो जो धीमे काम करता है, या वो जो पढाई अथवा खेल-कूद में पिछड़ा है?क्या वो जो अजीब सवाल पूछता है या वो जो अजीब बातें करता है ,या फिर वो जिसका काटने में सबसे अधिक आनंद आता है?

कहना मुश्किल है ! लेकिन ज़रा सोच के देखिये, हम सब जीवन के किसी न किसी मोड़ पे, कुछ मूर्ख़ता नही करते है? एक सवाल उभरता है…. क्या हम सब, किसी न किसी की नज़रों में मूर्ख नही हैं?

हमे क्या अधिकार है की किसी का मजाक उडायें ? हमे क्या अधिकार है की किसी और की बुराई करें ? ख़ुद में कभी झांक कर तो देखे की आखर हम कौन बड़ी तोप है जो दूसरे को गधा कहे!

फुददु वो है जो अपने को दूध का धुला समझे और सोचे की उससे बेहतर व्यक्ति नज़र नही आता. नज़र उठा के देख आदम!! हर वो चीज़ जो मै करता हूँ, मुझसे १०० गुना बेहतर कोई और कर सकता है, और हर वो चीज़ जिसपे तुम इतराओ , उससे १०० गुना वोही किसी और के पास भी हो

“बना है शाह का मुसाहिब , फिरे है इतराता
वरना शहर में गालिब की आबरू क्या है “

Decadence is setting in. My ideas & ethics are dying and am everyday getting more and more materialistic.

A number of thoghts cross my mind everyday. This is an attempt to word my emotions on a gamut of things.

If you’re here to find some fun stuff, you’ll be dissapointed. This is meant to be more of a chronicle rather than an intellectual/entertainment portal!

However, if you’re here to see what have i been up to; you’re more than welcome.